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Narcy (slang):
A playful shorthand for narcissistic behavior and the namesake of NarcyNarc.com, explained through humor to highlight manipulative patterns.
narc:
1. In casual online use, shorthand for “narcissist.”
2. Twentieth-century slang for a narcotics officer or informant. Context matters; the meanings differ.
2. Twentieth-century slang for a narcotics officer or informant. Context matters; the meanings differ.
A
- Abuse Cycle: The repeating loop of idealization, devaluation, and discard that trains you to tolerate mistreatment.
- Abandonment Fear: A chronic dread of being left that fuels clinging, tests, and sabotage.
- Adoration Seeking: A steady appetite for praise and attention used as a control lever.
- Antagonistic Behavior: Picking fights, jabs, or digs to destabilize and reassert control.
- Avoidance: Dodging accountability, conversations, or decisions to keep power without commitments.
- Accountability Evasion: Tactical confusion, delay, or deflection when consequences loom.
B
- Baiting: Provoking a reaction so it can be used against you (“See? You’re the problem”).
- Backhanded Compliment: Praise with a hidden blade that lowers your self‑worth.
- Big Narcy: The larger system — corporations, politics, or culture itself — acting with the same manipulative patterns as an individual narcissist.
- Blame Shifting: Redirecting fault to you, fate, or “misunderstandings” to dodge responsibility.
- Boundary Erosion: Gradually ignoring or rewriting agreements instead of renegotiating consent.
- Boundary Violation: A direct breach of your stated limits, time, or privacy.
C
- Calculation: A fast, internal “which tactic now?” decision that follows a trigger.
- Cognitive Dissonance: The mental stress of holding clashing truths—often exploited to keep you doubting yourself.
- Commitment Anchor: Hooking you with a “small favor” that quietly becomes ongoing obligation.
- Confabulation: Confidently supplying invented details to patch holes in a preferred story.
- Control Tactics: The toolbox—gaslighting, triangulation, guilt‑trips, stonewalling, and more.
- Covert Narcissist: Quiet grandiosity—self‑pitying, fragile, or shy on the surface; entitled underneath.
- Crazy‑Making: A pattern of contradictions and rules that renders you perpetually “wrong.”
- Criticism Sensitivity: Outsize reactions to gentle feedback; perceived slight = attack.
- Charm Offensive: Flooding niceness used as a tactic to disarm or reset you.
- Coercive Control: A pattern of domination through isolation, rules, surveillance, and threats.
D
- DARVO: Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim & Offender—turning accountability into persecution.
- Deflection: (Whataboutism) Dodging accountability by switching topics or turning the focus onto your mistakes.
- Dependence Normalization: Shifting occasional help into an assumed, permanent role.
- Devaluation: From pedestal to put‑downs—eroding your confidence to cement control.
- Discard: Abrupt emotional or relational cutoff as if the bond never existed.
- Dismissiveness: Waving away your input as overthinking, nagging, or irrelevant.
- Divide & Conquer: Isolating you from allies through gossip, tests, or secret channels.
- Double Bind: Describes any no-win situation where you’re punished no matter which path you take.
- Double Life: A curated public self alongside a private pattern you are told to hide.
- Dry Begging: Hinting and sighing to secure resources without a direct ask.
E
- Ego Boosting: Fishing for compliments or outrage to feel powerful.
- Emotional Blackmail: Leveraging fear, obligation, or shame to force choices.
- Enablers: Allies who excuse, deliver messages, or apply pressure on the narcissist’s behalf.
- Entitlement: The assumption that rules and effort are for other people.
- Excessive Charm: Over‑the‑top niceness that arrives right when leverage is needed.
- Extinction Burst: A spike of rage or pleading when a tactic stops yielding payoff.
F
- False Apology: “I’m sorry you feel that way”—words without ownership or change.
- Favor Banking: Keeping a mental ledger to cash in later as leverage.
- Feign Helplessness: Also known as weaponized incompetence—outsourcing effort while keeping control.
- Flying Monkeys: Recruited helpers who carry messages, spy, or enforce the narrative.
- FOG (Fear, Obligation, Guilt): The emotional haze that makes “no” feel dangerous.
- Future Faking: Big plans or micro‑promises that keep you waiting instead of deciding.
- Foot‑in‑the‑Door: A tiny yes leveraged into a much bigger commitment.
G
- Gaslighting: Systematically bending your reality through denial, minimization, and contradictions.
- Grandiosity: Inflated self‑importance that demands special treatment.
- Gray Rock: A disengagement technique—dull, brief, neutral responses to starve drama.
- Guilt‑Tripping: Inducing guilt so compliance feels like the only moral option.
- Grooming: Building trust and dependency before exploitation.
- Gaslighting by Omission: Withholding key facts so your conclusions look “crazy.”
H
- Hoovering: Attempts to suck you back in with flattery, panic, or nostalgia.
- Hyper‑Sensitivity: Small critiques feel like character assassination.
- Hypocrisy: Condemning in others what one excuses in oneself.
- Humiliation: Public shaming used to lower your status and compliance threshold.
I
- Idealization: Early pedestal‑placing designed to win access and speed attachment.
- Image Crafting: Micro‑managing appearances to harvest status and cover contradictions.
- Impression Management: Curating what each person sees to pre‑empt dissent.
- Intermittent Reinforcement: Random rewards that make you chase the next high.
- Invalidation: Treating your feelings as irrelevant, excessive, or irrational.
- Isolation: Limiting access to friends, funds, or facts so the narcissist becomes the hub.
J
- Jealousy Induction: Stirring insecurity by flaunting attention from others.
- Jekyll & Hyde: Whiplash shifts between charm and cruelty that keep you guessing.
- Judgment Masking: A serene, “above it all” pose that hides relentless evaluation.
K
- Kicking Down: Cruelty toward those with less power while flattering up the ladder.
- Know‑It‑All Behavior: Unshakeable certainty even in the face of clear evidence.
L
- Lack of Empathy: Difficulty caring about others beyond usefulness or image.
- Last Word Tactic: Narcy’s need to finish every exchange with her version of truth, ensuring her narrative stands while yours gets erased.
- Limbo: A suspended state—never truly chosen, never fully released.
- Loyalty Tests: Demands to prove devotion that never produce security.
- Love Bombing: Over‑the‑top affection and promises used as a fast‑track hook.
- Love Withdrawal: Sudden coldness to punish or train compliance.
- Lying Pathologically: Habitual falsehoods, big and small, to protect narrative control.
M
- Main Supply: The primary source of attention, admiration, resources, or control.
- Manufactured Consensus: “Everyone thinks…” claims that borrow authority without evidence.
- Manipulation: Steering choices through covert influence rather than honest consent.
- Masking: Adopting a persona to match the room and secure advantages.
- Mirroring: Copying your tastes and values to appear like the perfect fit.
- Minimizing: Shrinking the harm (“It was just a joke”) to avoid repair work.
- Mock Empathy: Performative concern that manages optics, not care.
- Moving Goalposts: Shifting standards so resolution always stays out of reach.
N
- Narcy (slang): Playful shorthand for narcissistic behavior; namesake of NarcyNarc.com.
- narc: Online shorthand for “narcissist” (also old slang for narcotics officer—context matters).
- Narciasco: A “planned accident” where small delays or excuses snowball into chaos, leaving you off balance while Narcy keeps control.
- Narcissistic Collapse: A crash in functioning when admiration dries up or a mask fails.
- Narcissistic Injury: Wound to self‑image that often triggers rage or retaliation.
- Narcissistic Rage: Disproportionate anger when control or status feels threatened.
- Narcyistics: The supply chain of manipulation — invisible, calculated, and always aimed at keeping the upper hand.
- Narcyomics: The economy of narcissism — supply, demand, debt, and discard, scaled up to relationships, families, and even nations.
- NarcyVerse: The satirical world where these tactics/terms live, making invisible manipulation visible — and impossible to ignore.
- Narrative Revisionism: Changing details or retelling events so that memory itself feels foggy or unstable.
- Neglect: Withholding time, care, or attention to punish or economize.
- No Contact: A boundary—ending all access to stop cycles of harm.
- Nostalgia Traps: Cherry‑picked memories used to pull you back in.
O
- Objectification: Treating people as roles or utilities rather than whole humans.
- Overt Narcissism: Loud, obvious displays of superiority and entitlement.
- Ownership Mentality: Acting as if others are property that must comply.
- Omission (Lies by Omission): Leaving out decisive facts to mislead without speaking a direct lie.
P
- Passive Aggression: Indirect hostility (sulking, sarcasm, “forgetting”) that punishes without owning it.
- Pattern: A recognizable cluster of tactics that repeats across time and targets.
- Pity Play: Victim theatrics that turn accountability into caretaking.
- Plausible Deniability: A fuzzy story kept just gray enough to avoid proof of intent.
- Projection: Attributing one’s own motives or actions to someone else.
- Projective Identification: Pressuring you into acting out the traits they disown, then blaming you for them.
- Push‑Pull Dynamic: Alternating warmth and rejection that builds anxious dependence.
Q
- Quiet Rage: Smoldering anger that leaks through tone, timing, and “forgetfulness.”
- Quicksand Relationship: Starts fast, feels thrilling, then pulls you under.
- Quid‑Pro‑Quo Kindness: Help that arrives with hidden strings attached.
R
- Rage Episodes: Sudden outbursts that reset the power balance through fear.
- Reactive Abuse: Your provoked reaction is reframed as the original harm.
- Rebuttal Loop: An endless chain of excuses, justifications, or “but, but, but…” designed to keep you defending yourself instead of closing the conversation.
- Retaliatory Withholding: Pulling affection, info, or access to punish.
- Revenge Seeking: Score‑keeping payback that escalates conflict.
- Rewriting History: Selective edits that make the past fit today’s need.
- Role Reversal: Claiming victimhood while positioning you as the offender.
- Rumination Hook: Unfinished loops and mixed messages that keep you mentally stuck.
S
- Scapegoating: Offloading blame onto a designated target to protect image.
- Schedule Sabotage (Chaos Testing): Derailing plans to test loyalty or create drama.
- Selective Amnesia: Forgetting key promises or details when accountability arrives.
- Shame Bombing: Intense criticism meant to shrink you back into line.
- Silent Treatment: Withdrawing contact as punishment or control.
- Smear Campaign: Seeding rumors to pre‑empt your credibility.
- Smear Seeding: Dropping hints of doubt — maybe he’s acting strange — to plant suspicion and damage your reputation.
- Status Seeking: Chasing proximity to power for reflected shine.
- Stonewalling: Refusal to engage, clarify, or decide—progress gridlocked.
- Supply: The admiration, attention, access, or chaos a narcissist harvests.
- Surveillance by Proxy: Enlisting others to watch you or report back.
T
- Tactic: The specific move chosen to regain or maintain control.
- Tether: An emotional cord that keeps you responding even after leaving.
- Threat Inflation: Exaggerating risks to force quick compliance.
- Token Kindness: One favor waved like a lifetime pass.
- Toxic Positivity: Pressure to “stay positive” that suppresses real issues.
- Triangulation: Inserting a third party to gain leverage—messenger, judge, or comparison.
- Trauma Bonding: Attachment forged through cycles of threat and relief.
- Trigger: A moment that threatens ego, image, or control and cues a tactic.
U
- Ultimatum (Weaponized): “Do this or else”—a forced choice framed as fairness.
- Undermining: Quietly eroding your confidence, alliances, or opportunities.
- Unrealistic Expectations: Demanding perfection while granting self‑exemptions.
- Urgency Hook: Compressed timelines that disable careful thinking.
V
- Vanishing Act: Strategic disappearances that reset power via anxiety.
- Validation Withholding: Refusing to acknowledge your reality as leverage.
- Victim Blaming: Recasting you as the cause of the harm done to you.
- Victim Credibility Take‑Down: Pre‑emptively discrediting you so your story won’t land.
- Vulnerability Scan: Early probing questions to map your soft spots.
W
- Weaponized Incompetence: See Feign Helplessness.
- Whataboutism: Counter‑accusations that derail the original issue.
- Withholding: Keeping love, access, information, or resources on a leash.
- Word Salad: Tangents and contradictions that exhaust and confuse.
X, Y, Z
- Xenophobic Thinking: Disdain for difference used to elevate the self.
- You Owe Me Mentality: Entitled score‑keeping that demands service or admiration.
- Zero Accountability: A stance where apologies are optics and change is optional.
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