Apologies (Narcy‑Style)

Real apologies name the harm, accept responsibility, and repair. Narcy’s versions sound soothing but serve narrative control, triangulation, or intermittent reinforcement.

A Narcy textbook apology sounds polished, but like Narcy’s button, it skips repair and flips the page without fixing it.

“I’m sorry you feel that way.” — Sounds like repair. Functions like a reset button… for her.

What’s Happening Here

Baseline: A real apology includes three parts — name it, own it, repair it.

Backhanded Apology: “I’m sorry you took it that way.” → shifts blame to your perception. See Dismissive Agreement.
Conditional Apology: “If I did anything wrong…” → denies the harm exists. See Powder‑Coated Praise (same shine, different aim).
Audience Apology: Says sorry publicly to manage witnesses, not wounds. See Triangulation.
Time‑Buy Apology: A small sorry now to dodge specifics; the real ask arrives later. See Foot‑in‑the‑Door.

Tell: If the apology ends the conversation for you but re-centers the story on her, it wasn’t repair — it was stagecraft.

Name

“I’m hearing a general apology. The specific harm was [name it].”
Own

“I’m looking for ownership, not ‘if’ or ‘sorry you feel.’”
Repair

“Here’s what repair would look like: [1–2 concrete steps].”
Boundary

“If repair doesn’t happen, I’m stepping back from this topic / event.”

Real apologies commit to repair. If “sorry” reroutes the spotlight without naming the harm or the fix, treat it as strategy — not closure.

“Real sorry fixes the bridge. Fake sorry paints it. A textbook sorry just points to the manual.” — Anonymous ex-Main Supply